Women: Don’t mention work, especially if your job is difficult to explain. You may have the most amazing career on the planet, but it can inadvertently intimidate someone looking at your profile. I realize this sounds horribly regressive, but during my experiment I found that women were attracted to men with high-profile careers, while the majority of men were turned off by powerful women.
Women with curly hair are at a distinct disadvantage online. I have no idea whether men prefer blondes, but I can say definitively that most men prefer women with healthy, long, straight hair. If you have curls and feel comfortable (and look good) straightening your hair, give that a try.” —
A woman who got a book deal because her prolonged period of posing as a dude on dating sites resulted in her figuring out the way to shape her profile so that she could GET A HUSBAND has some cold hard truths that, clearly, every woman who wants to transcend spinster status should take to heart.
Never mind that she met him in 2007, this is SCIENCE, PEOPLE. Or math. Whatever, I’m a girl, how can I tell the difference? *twirls lock of blow-out*
So very many ughs. Plz see previous post.
- “A Million First Dates,” Dan Slater, The Atlantic
- “There’s No Evidence Online Dating is Threatening Commitment or Marriage,” Alexis Madrigal, The Atlantic
- “Online Dating is a Horrific Den of Humanity,” Amanda Hess, Slate
- “A Single, Repulsive Dude Cannot Tell Us About All Men and Women,” Amanda Marcotte, Raw Story
- “The Many Problems with Online Dating’s Radical Efficiency,” Peter Ludlow, The Atlantic
… I’m not convinced that online dating is that profound well of human pathos and fascination that so many people seem to imagine it to be.
Richard Ben Cramer, though, was beyond mannerism, because he was excited, on the page, instead of professionally excitable, and for all his verbal energy, he was never anything but direct. Listen to the first sentence of the greatest magazine profile ever published by Esquire and, not incidentally, the greatest magazine profile ever written:
“Few men try for the best ever, and Ted Williams is one of those.”
Now, I’ve read that sentence, and that story, “What Do You Think of Ted Williams Now?” at least twenty-five times, and I’ll never be able to do justice to what makes it so great except to say it’s a handshake of a sentence — brisk, warm, offhand, relaxed, firm, honest, and man-to-man, the kind that accompanies a promise. It’s the sentence of a writer who is himself about to try for the best ever, and is willing both to let you in on what he’s going for and to do whatever’s necessary to make good. What follows is a nearly perfect melding of writer and subject — a story that makes the usual journalistic distinctions between first-person and third-person sound fussy and academic, and does the hardest thing a writer can do, which is to amplify his own voice in order to make his subject roar.” —
Tom Junod writing a wonderful remembrance in Esquire for the late Richard Ben Cramer, who died Monday at age 62.
- IMDB was founded in 1990, the same year that the Internet (as we know it) went online.
- Match.com predates most still-popular websites, including Amazon, eBay and Google.
- Netflix has been around since 1997. (Weren’t we still on dial-up then?!)
- The Internet-standards organization W3C lists a 1945 Atlantic article as the genesis of modern web standards.
- Time named the computer the “machine of the year” almost exactly 30 years ago.
… and more TK in a trivia-packed Internet timeline that will (I hope!) arrive next week.
Friends, today is my last day at Kiplinger’s. On Monday I start an all-new adventure as a social media reporter at the Washington Post.
It’s a bittersweet transition. Last night after everyone left I packed all my notebooks and magazines and miscellaneous snack foods into a box to take home; today I’ll finish passing some projects, including my beloved Kiplinger Tumblr, on to my colleagues. This was my first job, and I was lucky to work with some really wonderful people. But I’m also hugely excited to tackle bigger and different projects at the Post, especially in this evolving social media role.
Kiplinger, it’s been real. I can’t wait for what’s next.
Anthony Bourdain (via visceralconnection)
Always a reblog. Always.
I’m 22. I should do this. Oh, blast these bloody responsibilities, doubts, and fears.
I wonder/worry the same thing, Slayton. Though with less British slang.